Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Absentee

Hi everyone! !!
Work caught up with me. And you would think now that I have blogger on my phone it would be easier!! Anyways hehe.

Today I just wanna brag on my God and how awesome and faithful he is!!!!

He astounds me everyday with his favour and mercy and I know am not worthy of it at all and yet He hasn't forgotten about me!

Fasting and praying works and the peace of God that comes with knowing you are pleasing God are just wow.

Trust in Him and he shall make your paths straight.

Have a blessed day

Chica, a boys Momma

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Power of Words (Weight Issue)

Hi, my name is Chica am 29 years old a wife and a mom to a wonderful wonder 1 year toddler.
Oh I should also mention am overweight (wow it hurts to even write that).

…And yes am well aware of it… I could give you all kinds of excuses known to man as to why am overweight but the truth is, I ate way too much after I gave birth thinking that I had to “because I was breastfeeding” (my number 1 excuse).
The kilos were piling as I happily munched on everything in my sight (am feeding a human being I have a right to eat anything right? WRONG!!)

During my pregnancy I only gained 5 kilos (about 10lbs) but after that I ballooned so quickly I didn’t know what hit me! Right now am 20kilos (40lbs) overweight and I decided to lose it by reducing the quantities of my food, cut down on junk and soda and exercising for an hour and a half Mon-Fri. (I don’t really like diets because after the weight is off, you go back to your “normal” foods and you can gain the weight back quickly, so I keep eating what I normally eat (of course no junk) but I drastically cut my portions)
It has been only 2 weeks, I’ve lost a kilo (2 lbs) and it hasn’t been easy adjusting my diet, but I’ve been feeling great and think that I already look better.

But this post isn’t about my weight struggles… It’s about the people that surround me, the people in Society… yes it’s my fault I gained weight but it’s also my responsibility to lose it.
So why do people feel like it’s their duty to come over and ask me if I don’t think I should lose some weight?
Some of the questions and commentaries I get asked/told are:
- Don’t you think you should lose some weight?
- Chica you look too fat!
- Do you really want to eat that?
- What you eating is wrong
- Pizza? Why do you want pizza?(I eat it once a month only if that)
- You really should think about dieting
- What happened to you? You are so big?
- What you waiting for to lose weight?
And lots more along those lines….

I wonder if people know how the other side feels when they say that. I wonder if they bite their tongues afterwards or congratulate themselves for “telling it like it is” according to them?
I wonder if they ask themselves is this person trying to lose weight. Is she already exercising?
I am aware of my weight gain and I know I should lose weight and for that, I have been working so hard, but all I hear is people calling me FAT… am so discouraged but I know am not doing it for them, it’s for me and my own good.
I never retort to these comments because I don’t need to make them feel bad either whether they did it on purpose or not, but that they hurt, yes they do.

So if you are reading this and you’ve made an “innocent “ remark like this to me or someone else, I forgive you and I ask that next time you better hope there isn’t a next time because I will not be nice at all you be more considerate.

Anyways, done with my pity party… I didn’t go to the gym yesterday and today because of an abscess, but I’ll be back tomorrow, after all I have a self-imposed deadline, and that is to be yummy by the time I turn 30, so whatever that means by then (weight, centimetres lost, more fit, healthier) I will be happy by 30.

Have an awesome day y’all
Chica, A Boy’s Momma

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Let’s Talk Weight! (Eggplant Juice)

Today I wanna talk about a subject dear dear to my heart, and my hips, my waist, my back and other areas

Weight!!!

So, during my pregnancy I only gained 5kgs (about 10lbs) but after that I made friends with bread, pasta, juices, fried, and anything edible!

We became best friends! So much so that they called me in the middle of the night and I gladly answered! You could find me in the middle of the night eating while breastfeeding!!

Well its one year later, and they decided that they love me so much they will lodge themselves in my hips and other areas, and I promise you my hips DON’T LIE!!!

So, I decided to Join Gym and start slowly to burn my friends away (sorry guys hehehe)
But now, am getting antsy with the slow weight loss so I decided to try the Eggplant with lemon water! I hear it burns calories fast, slims your belly (I need to see my feet again lol) and you lose weight!

So for this week I’ll try it, monitor my progress and next week I’ll let you know the results!
They told me I wash and cut into cubes one Eggplant put it in a litre of water, let it sleep overnight, then in the morning I add a squeezed lemon into the water.

Drink one cup just after I wake up before eating anything, and the rest I drink during the Day.
Am so excited I can’t wait to try it!!

I’ll let you know if I lose anything coz I really need to and I can’t do any drastic diets because am still breastfeeding so I’ll go slow.

Come back next week and find out how I did!

Lots of Love
Chica, a Boys Momma

Monday, July 28, 2014

Sand Playing!!!

Today am such a proud and happy momma!!!
Yesterday we were invited to a birthday party and the house we went to wasn’t cemented so the whole yard was sand…
My boy has.never.played.in.sand.
Never.
So, after the initial shyness, Bubba decided to venture to play with the other children, he was trotting along just fine when suddenly wham!
He fell on his bum! Being the helicopter mum (try and judge me haha) that I am I wanted to go and pick him up when suddenly I see my boy picking up a fistful of sand and trying to analyze it closer to see what it was, the sand started falling through his fingers! I’ve never seen him so inquisitive!! He was soooooo awed at this “thing” that wouldn’t stay still in his hands yet it felt so weird!!!

He just sat there picking up sand and seeing it falling through his fingers… then he just sat there with his hands in the sand with this content look on his face you know the look you get when you peeing yourself in the shower? Lol like he just found gold.

I felt so happy and sad at the same time. Happy that my boy was so happy with playing with something so simple such as sand and yet being so joyfully delighted, and sad as to why it took me so long to just let him play in the sand and be a child.

Its simple things that make my heart full.

I Thank the Lord so much for giving us this pleasure.

When I take him to the beach ill attach some pictures.


Have a blessed day Y’all.

Chica, A Boy’s Momma

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

My Favourite ways to relax and refill

Hi there, my name is Chica am 29 years old (forever 22 lol) am a newbie, been married for 2 years and a mother to a bouncy 1 year toddler.
Being a wife and a mother is not easy! I am definitely an imperfect mom and I love this bible study for it!!! So with being a wife, mom and working full time I don’t have much time to relax and refill, but when I do I have a couple of minutes to myself I love to:
1.Daydream… I love dreaming about the places I wanna go (which often involve a beach or sitting under a tree)

2. I Loooooooooove reading It’s one of my guilty pleasures and I read any and everything! Even random pamphlets when am standing on a queue or in a doctor’s office, you get the gist.
Pleasure number 3 is movies… I Love either staying home or going to the movies… I just relax and enjoy not having to stress about anything else.
 Of course these are not in any order but one thing that relaxes me and brings me Joy is playing with my bundle of Joy!!! Seeing him squeal with delight when we are playing is so refreshing and assures me that am doing ok as a mom even if no one recognises it.
 My greatest source of relaxation and peace though, is reading my bible and pray.. Do you know how you feel when you are just fresh out of the shower? Yeah that’s how I feel when I pray and read my bible, and nothing relaxes me and makes my day go better than when I’ve started it with a prayer.
 So these are the things I do to relax and refill.

Thank you for stopping by and do leave your link so I can read your post too!!

Ps. These are Not me in the Pictures Neither are they my picutres

Chica, A Boys Momma




Monday, July 21, 2014

Techie day!!!

Today I wanna talk technology! More specifically phones!! Hehehe I am a phone junkie; I love androids, iPhone whatever shiny phone I can find (can you notice I don’t know much I just like shiny? Hahaha)

 I’ve had the iPhone 3 g, iPhone 3Gs, my current is a Nokia Lumia 720 (not really current since it fell into the toilet and now the screen won’t show), actually my current is an Alcatel old tiny phone which my boy loves to throw in the floor so it can break to pieces which he then loves to put back lol. Anyways now I want a new phone and am undecided between the Samsung Galaxy 5 and the Sony Xperia Z2! They are both awesome but too big!

But I held the Galaxy today and it ain’t too shabby!!! But am still undecided. All sites I go to they say it’s almost the same thing but the Galaxy always wins by a tiny margin!!! But I like the Xperia because it has more colour variety (see my priority here? Hahahah) Am a person that’s always stuck to her phone, playing games, Facebook, internet, I basically like to live out of my phone. So which one do you guys think is better? Have a great day!

A Boys Momma

Friday, July 18, 2014

It’s getting to be too much…

Today I woke up as carefree as I can be, and as usual I opened my daily fix of news and what was my shock when I saw the people who perished on the Malaysian Airline flight MH17! I mean if there was ever any senseless killing this goes right at the top! Am not writing this from the political point of view, am not interested in that not even one bit, am more worried, sad, shocked and plain outraged at the massive loss of life! I mean how someone can be so callous as to shoot a plane down just because it might be from the enemy or because “they are flying in our sky?” I really pray that the Lord has mercy on the people who did this because my mind cannot even begin to grasp the concept of forgiving hem and am not even from there. Am praying for the families who are left behind with no answers, no comfort, no more hellos to say, and oh my gosh can you imagine how scared those 100 children were? I just cannot digest this! Lord, today I pray for the families of those who perished on the plane crash, I pray for comfort for them, for peace and for them to be able to forgive. Walk with them, protect their hearts, minds and sanity because this sure is not easy but nothing is impossible with You so I ask that you will carry them through these difficult times. All this I ask in the name of you Son Jesus Amen

Thursday, July 17, 2014

This mommy life…

I love my job. I really do, but living in a city like Luanda where traffic is so bad you have to leave your house at 5 in the morning so you can avoid it, it’s just getting to be too much. My heart breaks a little every time I have to leave my munchkin. I praise the Lord that he’s asleep when I leave so there’s no crying otherwise I don’t know if I could take it!! Anyways now that am done with my pity party... Today am so tired I don’t even know what to write about, but since I want to be more consistent with the blog, ill be writing even if it’s a sentence a day.. Oh, now that am a mommy be ready to hear a lot about my munchkin and all the amazing feats he accomplishes every day! That boy does not cease to amaze me! Now that he’s mastered the art of walking, we are moving onto talking! Oh this is fun! Have a blessed day. Xoxo A Boys Momma

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Return of the Momma!!

Wow wow!!! It has been a while!!! How have you all been??? Am so so so great! Since my last post, I’ve enjoyed my pregnancy (it was relatively easy…) gave birth via c section (not my option but that’s another post) and have a healthy already one year bouncy baby boy!!! Well he’s a toddler now so… hahahaha. Life has been real and a rollercoaster, wow motherhood ain’t easy! But my boy makes it sooooooooo worth it! Anyways will try being more available. Hope you are all well! Mwah mamma of a boy!

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Today I found out about you...

Hi there little one.
How are you? am so still in shock! I just found out about you and am all kinds of emotional... But most of all am so thankful for the gift God has given us: you. Am not sure where to start thinking because it's still a bit unreal and amazing at the same time.
I mean I still think of myself as a little girl and to think that I have you inside of me is just too much for my little brain to understand.
I can't stop thinking about you ( and I just found out about you 3 hours ago) thinking what u doing, what you like, are you gonna look like your dad or me?
What are going to call you? Are you a boy or a girl? Are you ok in there? Are you warm? Too many things!!!hahaha
But of all the things that are going through my mind know this: you are already so so so loved and so expected, am already thinking how am I going to decorate your room and your grandmommies are so over the moon about you!!! I love pink and if you are a girl I hope you love pink too (it's ok if you don't) but to celebrate you I painted my nails pink. Looks red but it's pink.
I can't wait to meet you already.
So your auntie Marlene and your aunties Chipo and Ntshenge(youll meet them when u arrive) kept making fun of me yesterday telling me that u was pregnant, I denied with all I have and just had fun imagining you and what presents they were gonna give you. Today out of a dare your aunt Marlene and I decided to buy a pregnancy test and take it but unfortunately I didn't have to pee so we left the test fe tomorrow. But when I got home I decided to buy one just for fun for me and your dad, what was my surprise when I saw those double lines!!!!! I smiled, I cried (of joy and happiness) I jumped, I sat in your dads lap and cried of joy some more! Your dad was smiling like the car who got the cream and his eyes were shining white pride ( I could see it). Little baby know that you are loved and cherished.

I love you to eternity.
Mommy
Ps that a picture of me of the day I found out about you.